Do you and your partner struggle with toxic, out-of-control conflict? Learning how to pause during conflict will help you navigate arguments without hurting each other. You might have already tried to just "take a break" or do a "time out" during fights. But unless you know how to take an effective break, you may just wind yourself up or trigger abandonment in your partner. The Take a Break guide provides a detailed plan for taking a break during conflict, including how to develop your own personalized break plan. I also address 10 common mistakes couples make when taking a break, plus three common special circumstances that make breaks challenging.