What The F**k Did You Just Say To Me?!
You and your partner keep getting stuck in twisty, messed up fights. When you desperately want to connect, you end up fighting about stuff that doesn’t matter, caught in each other’s words, defenses, and lightning fast reactions.
You figure, we need to learn better communication skills, right? But when you read the relationship books (or even go to couples therapy), the tips backfire.
You find yourselves fighting about what counts as an “I” statement, what validation sounds like, and whether your apology “counts.” You feel even more alone and broken. That’s because boilerplate communication skills were not made with your relationship in mind. Standard communication skills often fail couples who are in the thick of real life hardship. And you deserve better. You deserve help that was made for you, with your mess, complexity, and big heart in mind.
Your relationship isn’t broken. You’re not incompatible. You can learn to stop miscommunicating, stop fighting about stupid stuff, and stop going round and round in circles on topics that you don’t even care about. You can learn when and how to hold your ground with grace. You can feel good about how you show up in your relationship without being a doormat or losing self-respect.
You and your partner keep getting stuck in twisty, messed up fights. When you desperately want to connect, you end up fighting about stuff that doesn’t matter, caught in each other’s words, defenses, and lightning fast reactions.
You figure, we need to learn better communication skills, right? But when you read the relationship books (or even go to couples therapy), the tips backfire.
You find yourselves fighting about what counts as an “I” statement, what validation sounds like, and whether your apology “counts.” You feel even more alone and broken. That’s because boilerplate communication skills were not made with your relationship in mind. Standard communication skills often fail couples who are in the thick of real life hardship. And you deserve better. You deserve help that was made for you, with your mess, complexity, and big heart in mind.
Your relationship isn’t broken. You’re not incompatible. You can learn to stop miscommunicating, stop fighting about stupid stuff, and stop going round and round in circles on topics that you don’t even care about. You can learn when and how to hold your ground with grace. You can feel good about how you show up in your relationship without being a doormat or losing self-respect.
You and your partner keep getting stuck in twisty, messed up fights. When you desperately want to connect, you end up fighting about stuff that doesn’t matter, caught in each other’s words, defenses, and lightning fast reactions.
You figure, we need to learn better communication skills, right? But when you read the relationship books (or even go to couples therapy), the tips backfire.
You find yourselves fighting about what counts as an “I” statement, what validation sounds like, and whether your apology “counts.” You feel even more alone and broken. That’s because boilerplate communication skills were not made with your relationship in mind. Standard communication skills often fail couples who are in the thick of real life hardship. And you deserve better. You deserve help that was made for you, with your mess, complexity, and big heart in mind.
Your relationship isn’t broken. You’re not incompatible. You can learn to stop miscommunicating, stop fighting about stupid stuff, and stop going round and round in circles on topics that you don’t even care about. You can learn when and how to hold your ground with grace. You can feel good about how you show up in your relationship without being a doormat or losing self-respect.
What You’ll Get:
A bingeable, straight talking PDF guide to help you understand why fights with your partner are such a dumpster fire and how to extinguish the flames and communicate like grown ups who love each other
No-nonsense, actionable steps to end the miscommunication mess
Dialed-in answers to the "but what about..." questions you have about your relationship
Practical guidance that will work even if your partner doesn’t want to participate