Take a Break - A Tool To Prevent Destructive Conflict

$19.00

You want a calm, safe relationship. You want to be able to fight without yelling, disagree without getting nasty. After every toxic fight, you and your partner promise - next time will be different. But then, next time comes around, you get triggered, they get flooded, and the same chaotic, destructive fight happens all over again. It’s time to stop making empty promises and start learning actual skills to end the vicious fights. All the good intentions and communication scripts in the world won’t help you until you learn this foundational skill - taking a break during conflict AND COMING BACK (I’ll say it again - coming back). 

You want a calm, safe relationship. You want to be able to fight without yelling, disagree without getting nasty. After every toxic fight, you and your partner promise - next time will be different. But then, next time comes around, you get triggered, they get flooded, and the same chaotic, destructive fight happens all over again. It’s time to stop making empty promises and start learning actual skills to end the vicious fights. All the good intentions and communication scripts in the world won’t help you until you learn this foundational skill - taking a break during conflict AND COMING BACK (I’ll say it again - coming back). 

What You'll Get:

  • A clear, actionable plan for how to PAUSE during nasty fights

  • Why this has never worked for you before - and why it will this time

  • How to navigate breaks when one partner needs space and the other feels abandoned 

  • How to handle tricky situations (this is where I answer all your questions that start with “but what about…?”)

    This ebook includes 60+ pages of content and activities that get straight to the point and leave you with a clear, realistic plan to stop hurting each other with toxic conflict.

This resource is for you IF:

  • You and your partner have an anxious/avoidant dynamic, with one person always seeking conflict resolution and the other needing some space

  • You feel like your partner stonewalls you during conflict (but they say they are just processing)

  • It seems like your need for calm conflict gets vilified - somehow you're the bad guy for wanting to pause when fights get out of control

  • Your desire to actually work things out (instead of shoving it all under the rug) is seen by your partner as too much or out-of-control

  • No one taught you how to fight fair

Reviews For Take A Break

Reviews (Take a Break)
★★★★★

“My boyfriend and I are really enjoying the take a break guide. We kind of had something similar in place (a safe word- pumpernickel) but we weren’t really effectively using it. We’ve been going through a couple pages each night and then talking about it and what xyz means to each of us to help us better understand how one another processes things/expresses things. We’ve called it our book club! It’s nice because our fights were never about anything mean, there was never any name calling or yelling, but just instant defensiveness and a lack of understanding one another’s point of views. So, this has been useful thus far to kind of break it down!”

★★★★★

"I'd like to thank you for the help you've brought to my relationship. I can't imagine being able to navigate it without your content."

★★★★★

"Take A Break guide helped my relationship because it showed me the first thing I should do is take a break when flooded. Fights don't go on and on for days as much anymore."

★★★★★

"I managed to take a break by myself!!! As someone that’s terrified of leaving the conversation before it gets somewhere, I’m so proud of myself for that and it definitely played a role in ending up in a good place with our talk."

★★★★★

"The guide was helpful in talking about the do's and don'ts of taking a break which I needed. It wasn't just a blanket statement saying take a break and emotionally regulate yourself."

★★★★★

"My boyfriend was interested in reading it. Then he said that it’s such an easy book to read and follow. As if it’s made for those that get confused with too much detail. He said he read it pretty fast and now he’s reading it again to understand it better. Without me trying to get him to read it. This is a victory!"