You and your partner keep getting stuck in twisty, messed up fights. When you desperately want to connect, you end up fighting about stuff that doesn’t matter, caught in each other’s words, defenses, and lightning fast reactions.
You figure, we need to learn better communication skills, right? But when you read the relationship books (or even go to couples therapy), the tips backfire. You find yourselves fighting about what counts as an “I statement,” what validation sounds like, and whether your apology “counts.” You feel even more alone and broken.
That’s because boilerplate communication skills were not made with your relationship in mind. Standard communication skills often fail couples who are in the thick of real life hardship. And you deserve better. You deserve help that was made for you, with your mess, complexity, and big heart in mind.
Your relationship isn’t broken. You’re not incompatible. You can learn to stop miscommunicating, stop fighting about stupid stuff, and stop going round and round in circles on topics that you don’t even care about. You can learn when and how to hold your ground with grace. You can feel good about how you show up in your relationship without being a doormat or losing self-respect.
What You’ll Get:
A bingeable, straight talking PDF guide to help you understand why fights with your partner are such a dumpster fire and how to extinguish the flames and communicate like grown ups who love each other
No-nonsense, actionable steps to end the miscommunication mess
5 video mini-lessons to help you work through particularly tricky concepts
Practical guidance that will work even if your partner doesn’t want to participate
Reviews for What The F**k Did You Just Say To Me?!
"Learning to use less "pointy" language, and accepting "good enough"; the tips on how to stop monologuing were helpful, too! Yes, I find myself using them daily, if not every time we talk now. The guide has helped us open a new door of communication. This was very clear and straight to the point. The examples given were great! It's almost like you've dealt with the same kind of conflicts a lot, Dr. Marina! 😂"
"I just purchased your WTF did you say to me guide, and went through the whole thing! I learnt so much , even skills I wasn’t able to pick up in marriage counselling, so I’m keen to start using them (one at a time very very slowly). A lot of the concrete examples are a nice complement to our couples counseling. In particular advice on what “slowing down” actually looks like, or how “I statements” and emotions can be pointy were very helpful. In our 50 min sessions it’s just impossible to get into the depth of lots of things so there is so much value to the examples and techniques and distinctions you make. Thank you!"
"Hi! Just wanted to say that the WTF guide seems super helpful (I say seems bc I haven’t yet implemented anything, just read it). A lot of the concrete examples are a nice complement to our couples counseling. In particular advice on what “slowing down” actually looks like, or how “I statements” and emotions can be pointy were very helpful. In our 50 min sessions it’s just impossible to get into the depth of lots of things so there is so much value to the examples and techniques and distinctions you make. Thank you!"
"I just read your WTF did you say to me pdf and it was already so useful. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for the work you do"